You may or may not know this about me: I am a HUGE Star Wars fan. I’m talking about the original trilogy, A New Hope / The Empire Strikes Back / Return of the Jedi. I have a deep fondness of them.
I remember going to the movie theatre (movie theatres were not NEARLY as fancy as the theatres today) and getting my 1 box of Jawbreakers (remember those tiny little sugar pellets that could break your tooth if crunched down in the wrong way…?) and crunching my way through the movie. Inevitably, I remember that one of my siblings would accidentally spill their jawbreakers out onto the floor (sometimes it was me) and we would hear them all drop, one by one, onto the floor of the theatre and roll down to the front of the theatre, disrupting every single person whose chair they rolled underneath, until they finally came to stop at the front of the theatre.
Ah, those were the days.
I am not so much a fan of the newer movies that came out that are actually prequels to the original trilogy released in 1977, 1980 and 1983, but still watched them as a dedicated and loyal Star Wars junkie.
After recently seeing the latest release, The Rise of Skywalker, it was hard to believe that I had watched the final movie. So, I decided to watch The Mandalorian to see what the buzz was about.
And afterall, I love Star Wars so what’s a little more storyline…?
I have two words. Baby Yoda.
Did I say, Baby Yoda??!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
I had been hearing about Baby Yoda on the internet and in the news, but didn’t understand the appeal until I saw this series and fully understood. Not with my head, but with my heart.
SPOILER ALERT: If you haven’t watched this series yet and intend to watch the series, then stop reading here! Come back after you’ve seen it and finish the article!
The storyline follows a bounty hunter who had been hired to kill an “asset” that was a “threat” to the order. This bounty hunter, the Mandalorian, who has his own profound storyline of transformation and softening, found the asset and upon seeing that the asset was actually a very young baby, could not bring himself to kill Baby Yoda.
This started out a beautiful attachment process between this soldier and this vulnerable Baby Yoda, during which they both saved each other’s lives in a variety of different ways.
As it happens in “good bonding”, there grows a bond between an adult and a child in which the child’s needs, especially their need for safety and protection come first.
The child begins to know (not in their head but in a much deeper internal place inside) that they are “safe in this world” and that this caregiver would put their life on the line to protect them if needed.
This series illustrated this process of bonding and attachment beautifully when time after time, the Mandalorian found himself in the middle of a battle or changing his plan so that he could come back and rescue Baby Yoda from the bad guys.
The story shows the Mandalorian lovingly making a space for Baby Yoda in the cockpit of his ship, and gently redirecting Baby Yoda whenever he tried to chew on pieces of the spaceship as toys.
It was a beautiful and heart-touching example of the love that underlies good bonding, between a parent, who had a hard time opening up to his feelings and heart but not being able to resist the pull of this child and its dependence, and a sweet, complex, vulnerable Baby Yoda.
I mean after all, Baby Yoda is not full-grown yet; he’s only 50 years old...he’s just a baby!!!!
I finished watching this series feeling myself doing work around Baby Yoda in my own therapy process and what this character touched inside of me.
And here’s where the story gets really incredible.
The other day, I was talking to a nephew of mine about Baby Yoda (in fact, I had my Baby Yoda hoodie on and he saw it) and he immediately said “Aunt Kate, wait!!!!” and proceeded to pull up a video on YouTube about… you guessed it… BABY YODA.
Check it out here: Baby Yoda YouTube Video
Oh my gosh. I couldn’t get it out of my head. I felt a strange mix of admiration, heart break, wonder, sadness as I listened to the song.
People are going nuts over Baby Yoda!!!! I am mesmerized by it and I love it!!! And I’ve figured out why this is happening.
Baby Yoda represents the Inner Child inside each of us.
What makes Baby Yoda such a sensation is that he is a “safe” symbol for people to soften and feel tender towards. I mean again, after all, he’s related to Yoda. It’s acceptable to show heart in this way.
Even the hardened bounty hunter, the Mandalorian, softened and supported a connection to Baby Yoda.
So, I want you to go back and listen to the song again. This time, listen to the words that this person sings in this song. Imagine that he was talking about his own inner child.
Makes sense, doesn’t it?
This is why we love puppies, kittens, babies...anything young and vulnerable. And is also why some people absolutely cannot stand the idea of puppies, kittens, babies and anything young and vulnerable.
Our relationship to the child inside of us is a direct mirror for how we were supported for our own heart, vulnerability and softness from the world, society, family, and caregivers in our life.
When we received support for our softness and vulnerability, it makes it easier in the here and now to support this part of us.
In the ways that our heart, softness and vulnerability were met with painful experiences, we try to stay away from this part of ourselves too, unconsciously, as a way to avoid further pain.
And when we live in constant disconnection from the child inside of us, we become disconnected from our inner strength, our inner wisdom, our inner power.
In a nutshell, we ensure that we will stay disconnected from our own inner Baby Yoda.
So here’s the deal folks… go look for Baby Yoda. Watch the series. Google it. You might just find that you end up bumping into your own inner child along the way.
This child needs your fierce protection and deep presence. It’s time.
And here’s the best part about that: you’ve got a wonderful example of how to begin bonding with your inner child- the Mandalorian gives you a spectacular roadmap for how to begin building better bonding inside for this part of you.
Thanks for reading.
Kate is an INFJ-3 on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator and Enneagram.