Have you ever noticed how much easier it is to promote someone else than it is to talk about yourself???
At least as an introvert it sure is…
It’s nothing to fight for other people, earn them accolades and promotions but when it comes to yourself, feel sooooo much more challenging to make the case on your own behalf.
Ever wondered why this is true?
Well...there’s not as much of “you” on the line when you try to sell someone on someone else than there is when you try to sell others on you.
It’s much, much easier to accept defeat, rejection (this one is a doozy!) or ridicule on your friend’s behalf than it is to accept and deal with on your own behalf.
Believe me, I know.
Avoiding defeat, rejection and potential ridicule is a behavioral loop that’s easy for me to get stuck in- as if “not putting myself out there” eliminates any possibility of EVER feeling these things.
Although that might work in the short run, it’s not a very effective way to move about the world.
I’m usually the first one to jump up when it comes to promoting someone else’s value or work- but when it comes to making the case for why I might be up for a promotion, it becomes incredibly challenging.
Introverts are often heard thinking, “It’d be so much easier if my good work just could speak for itself”.
Although there is merit for dancing your dance and naturally drawing those interested in what you have to offer, the world needs what introverts have to offer.
On a bigger scale.
I’m pretty sure that Margaret Mead was talking about when she said:
“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.”
Don’t wait for others to figure out your gifts on their own. It’s up to you to find a way to share your potential and your passion with the world.
If you’d like to chat more about this, let’s talk. I can help.
I am grateful that you are a part of my community and I am here to support you however I can.
Stay safe and be well.
Kate is an INFJ-3 on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator and Enneagram.