What is counseling?
Most therapy is cognitive or talk therapy. This type of therapy aims to look at people’s thoughts around events in their life and point out errors in thinking or distorted thoughts, also addresses behavior modification. The limitation of this approach is that it does nothing to address the pain caused by wounding messages early in life, which is a necessary process for healing. When old emotional buttons get pushed, the defense system automatically looks for ways to protect the person against pain. The defensive system in the right side of the brain does not respond to reason.
Affective therapy operates by accessing the right side of the brain. This is the place where these old wounding messages are stored. Many people try to avoid looking at pain left over from childhood. They say things like “it’s all behind me now, why look at the past” or “I need to just forgive and move on”. The problem is that just because we want these feelings to go away does not mean they will. They must be expressed and end up manifesting themselves in our present day lives and relationships in the form of addictions, compulsions, substance abuse, depression, anxiety, work-aholism, infidelity, smoking, eating, eating disorders, and illnesses until we do attend to them once and for all.
Why do people seek therapy?
Some people are drawn to this type of deep healing work because they have an awareness inside that it is time to make some fundamental changes in their lives. Others are drawn to this work because they have run out of options to function effectively in their lives. Although the healing process continues throughout life, the course of affective healing work with a therapist has a beginning, a middle and an end. I work extensively with the Myers-Briggs Type-Indicator (MBTI) and Enneagram personality typing systems to identify both a client's core self (MBTI) and their defensive structure (Enneagram). As a therapist, I feel that when I know a client's MBTI type, Enneagram type and life history, I know about 95% of who my client is. Working with these three keys is not only more effective than conventional talk therapy, but expedites the progress making it far more efficient and cost effective.
Groups Currently Recruiting for:
3Keys to Self Understanding Therapy Group This is an ongoing therapeutic group for those individuals who are interested in starting deep emotional healing therapy based upon the 3Keys to Self-Understanding therapy model. Many individuals are seeking deep emotional healing and recovery from disruptive or destructive patterns in their lives. They may not be able to afford individual therapy or prefer to heal in the group setting. Although 1 on 1 therapy is recommended to bring about the most expedient fundamental and lasting change in one's life, this group will provide an opportunity to begin the process of recovering from unhealthy or destructive coping techniques and patterns in a group setting. Any woman who has first completed an orientation to the 3Keys model and has had her MBTI & Enneagram types verified by a 3Keys practitioner is eligible to join. For those clients new to the 3Keys model, initial screenings will be conducted to verify MBTI & Enneagram type prior to beginning of the group. If interested, please click link below or contact Kate: firstname.lastname@example.org
Therapeutic Support Group for Women In Heterosexual Relationships Who Are Coming Out as Lesbian or Questioning Their Sexual Orientation
This is a therapeutic support group for married women or women who have been recently married to a man in a heterosexual relationship and are now coming out as lesbians or questioning their sexual orientation. We are currently recruiting for the next group. If interested, please click link below or contact Kate: email@example.com
Past Workshops & Classes:
Visual Journaling: Using Images to Go Deeper than Words
This 6 week course is designed to help you learn how to move beyond thought and words into feelings and intuitive knowledge...even if you can't draw! Emotions repressed from our past remain stored away in our bodies and can cause physical symptoms of varying severity, including depression, panic or fear, even intense reactions towards our children, partners or loved ones. Often, just the act of getting in touch with how something really feels inside your body -- rather than how you think it feels -- is enough to offer a sense of relief and bring about great changes in our lives and relationships.
Introduction to Visual Journaling: Using Images to Go Deeper Than Words with Clients Words interpret our feelings, images reveal them. Imagery is our body-mind-spirit connection's primary means of communication. And feelings always communicate information if we are willing to listen. Emotions repressed from the past remain stored away in our bodies, and can cause physical symptoms of varying severity, including physical pain, illness, weight concerns, depression, anxiety, panic or intense reactions towards our loved ones. Come and learn the theory and practice behind the importance of moving beyond thoughts and words into feelings and intuitive knowledge in your work with clients. No artistic ability required!
3Keys to Self-Understanding: An Innovative Combination of the MBTI, Enneagram and Affective Inner Child Healing Processes
Come join us in a journey of self-discovery as we explore how our life experiences have shaped us into the people that we are today. Workshop participants will receive an overview of the 3Keys Model for deep emotional affective healing, and a working understanding of the MBTI and Enneagram personality systems, including the roles of these two typing systems in the development of both the core self and defense systems. The retreat will include experiential exercises, group process and discussion to move participants through their own process of self-discovery and explore how this wisdom can heal emotional and spiritual wounding, and how you can use this wisdom to guide you back to your soul self.
3 Keys to Self-Understanding: Inner Experiential Workshop for Deep Emotional Change (May 3-4, 2014) The workshop will be fully experiential (no lecture or theory)- come prepared for two days of very intensive, deep emotional work. The Three Keys approach directly tackles the underlying emotional and bodily roots of issues such as depression, addiction, lack of intimacy, and feelings of loneliness and inadequacy. It is best suited to people who have done some personal work already and are seeking a fundamental shift in their development. During the workshop, Kate will guide participants through a variety of experiential exercises using guided imagery, body work, artwork and music, designed to connect you with your core self, discover unresolved family issues, reconnect with your feelings, identify unmet needs and show you how to move forward.
Upcoming Workshops, Classes & Current Events
Look for our article The Process of Letting Go in The Healthy Planet's July 2015 edition!
Understanding the Enneagram: New Clinical Applications for Personal & Professional Ministry (July 14, 2015) - Saint Louis Cluster of Pastoral Care Educators
This workshop presents a unique understanding of our Defense System, profiled by the Enneagram System of Personality typing. When living out of our Enneagram defense, we experience a disintegration of body, mind and spirit, and we are limited in terms of accessing our life's purpose. Understanding how control shifts unconsciously and automatically into the Defense System of the Enneagram under certain circumstances restores a great deal of personal power to the individual. Without this understanding and without control over the shift into the compulsion of the Enneagram we are powerless to control it. Restoring control of the defense response back to our core self, restores personal power. The workshop will briefly address the difference between one's "core self" (the strong, resourceful, centered part we all have, represented by the MBTI) and one's "defense system" (what we do when we are stressed, uncomfortable or scared, represented by the Enneagram system), with primary emphasis on the Enneagram personality system, or our defense system.
Healing the Mind-Body-Spirit Divide (July 23, 2015) - Association for Psychological Type International Symposium Presentation
This workshop presents a unique model for self-understanding incorporating the Enneagram and the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). The MBTI, profiling the True Self, is protected by the Defense System of the Enneagram, which limits early emotional damage and provides coping skills. When living out of our defense system, we experience a disintegration of body/mind/spirit. The workshop will demonstrate the value of using the MBTI and the Enneagram together to facilitate self-acceptance and deep emotional healing. (Symposium presentation for the 2015 Association for Psychological Type International Annual Conference.)
Spirituality & Psychology: Using Psychological Type to Discover Your Own Spiritual Path (July 24, 2015) - Association for Psychological Type International Concurrent Session
This workshop presents a unique model for understanding and discovering one’s own personal spiritual path through the application of personality type. Traditional religious practices have often been the source of great emotional wounding and pain for many, as they are brought up in communities that support “one way” of celebrating. Many struggle over a lifetime to fit in spiritually. Just as there are different personality types, there are many equally valid ways to embrace one’s spirituality. (Concurrent presentation for the 2015 Association for Psychological Type International Annual Conference.)
Healing the Mind-Body-Spirit Divide: 3 Keys to Self-Understanding (June 25, 2014) (Presentation for the 39th Annual National Wellness Conference, through the National Wellness Institute.)
3Keys to Self Understanding Therapy Group (August 15, 2014 - May 15, 2015) This is an ongoing therapeutic group for those individuals who are interested in starting deep emotional healing therapy based upon the 3Keys to Self-Understanding therapy model.
Sexual Orientation and Our Spirit: Recovering Our Soul Self (November 7-8, 2014)
This is a 3Keys to Self-Understanding experiential retreat opportunity to explore personal and spiritual soul wounding as a result of identifying as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or questioning or living in an "alternative" lifestyle or relationship.
Spirituality & Psychology: Using Psychological Type to Discover Your Own Spiritual Path (March 2015) - American Counseling Association of Missouri Annual Conference This workshop presents a unique model for understanding and discovering one’s own personal spiritual path through the application of personality type. Traditional religious practices have often been the source of great emotional wounding and pain for many, as they are brought up in communities that support “one way” of celebrating. Many struggle over a lifetime to fit in spiritually. Just as there are different personality types, there are many equally valid ways to embrace one’s spirituality.
Peace...it does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work; rather, it means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart. (Unknown)