What is counseling?
Most therapy is cognitive or talk therapy. This type of therapy aims to look at people’s thoughts around events in their life and point out errors in thinking or distorted thoughts, also addresses behavior modification. The limitation of this approach is that it does nothing to address the pain caused by wounding messages early in life, which is a necessary process for healing. When old emotional buttons get pushed, the defense system automatically looks for ways to protect the person against pain. The defensive system in the right side of the brain does not respond to reason.
Affective therapy operates by accessing the right side of the brain. This is the place where these old wounding messages are stored. Many people try to avoid looking at pain left over from childhood. They say things like “it’s all behind me now, why look at the past” or “I need to just forgive and move on”. The problem is that just because we want these feelings to go away does not mean they will. They must be expressed and end up manifesting themselves in our present day lives and relationships. (addictions, compulsions, substance abuse, work-aholism, infidelity, smoking, eating, eating disorders, illnesses, etc.)
The purpose of affective therapy is to reverse these stored negative messages and allow the defense system to relax. Inner child work is a form of affective therapy that works by examining present day emotional buttons that get pushed or unwanted behavioral reactions, tracing them back to their origins and healing the emotional pain. It is then that we can look at the situation more objectively and act out of the more rational adult. The rational, left brain is employed, but not until the right brain has accessed the origins of the problem and expressed the unresolved feelings.
Why do people seek therapy?
Some people are drawn to this type of deep healing work because they have an awareness inside that it is time to make some changes in their lives. Others are drawn to this work because they have run out of options to function effectively in their lives. Although the healing process continues throughout life, the course of affective healing work with a therapist has a beginning, a middle and an end. I work extensively with the Myers-Briggs Type-Indicator (MBTI) and Enneagram personality typing systems to identify both a client's core self (MBTI) and their defensive structure (Enneagram). As a therapist, I feel that when I know a client's MBTI type, Enneagram type and life history, I know about 95% of who my client is. Working with these three keys is not only more effective than conventional talk therapy, but expedites the progress making it far more efficient and cost effective.
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Upcoming Workshops, Classes & Current Events
Visual Journaling: Using Images to Go Deeper than Words (January 9, 2014- February 13, 2014)
This 6 week course is designed to help you learn how to move beyond thought and words into feelings and intuitive knowledge...even if you can't draw! Emotions repressed from our past remain stored away in our bodies and can cause physical symptoms of varying severity, including depression, panic or fear, even intense reactions towards our children, partners or loved ones. Often, just the act of getting in touch with how something really feels inside your body -- rather than how you think it feels -- is enough to offer a sense of relief and bring about great changes in our lives and relationships. Visual journaling is a wonderful way to access emotions and feelings that words cannot express and release those feelings so that your body no longer has to carry them around. No previous therapy experience, mental health training or artistic ability required! This class is designed specifically for anyone interested in getting in touch with their inner wisdom and guidance and learning how to stay connected to this source of inner knowledge through the use of visual journaling.
March 2014 Introduction to Visual Journaling: Using Images to Go Deeper Than Words with Clients (March 6, 2014)
Presentation for the American Counseling Association of Missouri Annual Conference. For more information, please visit: http://www.counselingmissouri.org/. 2014 Conference location is in Jefferson City, MO.
W0rds interpret our feelings, images reveal them. Imagery is our body-mind-spirit connection's primary means of communication. And feelings always communicate information if we are willing to listen. Emotions repressed from the past remain stored away in our bodies, and can cause physical symptoms of varying severity, including physical pain, illness, weight concerns, depression, anxiety, panic or intense reactions towards our loved ones. Often, just the act of getting in touch with how something really feels inside your body- rather than how you think it feels- is enough to offer a sense of relief and bring about great changes in our lives and relationships. Visual Journaling can be used to: reduce stress, release anger, resolve conflicts, get in touch with feelings and intuition and give voice to the soul.
Come and learn the theory and practice behind the importance of moving beyond thoughts and words into feelings and intuitive knowledge in your work with clients. No artistic ability required!
3 Keys to Self-Understanding: An Innovative Combination of the MBTI, Enneagram and Affective Inner Child Healing Processes
(March 7-8, 2014)
Ever feel like something is missing in your life and you are ready for something more? Ever wondered what it really all means underneath? Or wish that you could understand better what makes you (and others) "tick"?
Come and join us in a journey of self-discovery as we explore how our life experiences have shaped us into the people that we are today. Workshop participants will receive an overview of the 3Keys Model for deep emotional affective healing, and a working understanding of the MBTI and Enneagram personality systems, including the roles of these two typing systems in the development of both the core self and defense systems. The retreat will include experiential exercises, group process and discussion to move participants through their own process of self-discovery and explore how this wisdom can heal emotional and spiritual wounding, and how you can use this wisdom to guide you back to your soul self.
Want to know why you continue to do the things you do even though they may not work for you? Want to learn more about who you were really designed to be? Do you ever feel like there is a war inside between what you want to do and feel like you should do? Sign up now for this opportunity to learn more about these internal conflicts and begin the journey back to your soul self! Register early, space is limited. Sponsored by women'Space.
June 2014 Healing the Mind-Body-Spirit Divide: 3 Keys to Self-Understanding (June 25, 2014)
Presentation for the 39th Annual National Wellness Conference, through the National Wellness Institute. For more information, please visit: http://www.nationalwellness.org/?page=NWC2014. 2014 Conference location is at the University of Minnesota-Twin Cities, in Minneapolis, Minnesota.
This workshop presents a unique model for self-understanding incorporating the Enneagram and the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), along affective inner child work processes to facilitate deep emotional healing. The MBTI, profiles our core self, and is protected by the defense system of the Enneagram, which limits early emotional damage and provides coping skills. When living out of our defense system, we will always experience a disintegration of the body/mind/spirit. The workshop will demonstrate the value of using the MBTI and the Enneagram together to facilitate self-acceptance. Participants will be given a basic knowledge of a model for self-understanding, and will become familiar with the MBTI and what the MBTI profiles. They will be able to see how the Enneagram operates as a defense system for protecting the core self, and how these two systems operate and interact in an individual. They will be able to understand how unexplained shifts in behaviors under certain conditions, as well as body/mind/spirit disintegration. Participants will be given insights into their own behaviors and how to acquire conscious control of those behaviors restoring a sense of personal power.
Peace...it does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work; rather, it means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart. (Unknown)