What is counseling?
Most therapy is cognitive or talk therapy. This type of therapy aims to look at people’s thoughts around events in their life and point out errors in thinking or distorted thoughts, also addresses behavior modification. The limitation of this approach is that it does nothing to address the pain caused by wounding messages early in life, which is a necessary process for healing. When old emotional buttons get pushed, the defense system automatically looks for ways to protect the person against pain. The defensive system in the right side of the brain does not respond to reason.
Affective therapy operates by accessing the right side of the brain. This is the place where these old wounding messages are stored. Many people try to avoid looking at pain left over from childhood. They say things like “it’s all behind me now, why look at the past” or “I need to just forgive and move on”. The problem is that just because we want these feelings to go away does not mean they will. They must be expressed and end up manifesting themselves in our present day lives and relationships. (addictions, compulsions, substance abuse, work-aholism, infidelity, smoking, eating, eating disorders, illnesses, etc.)
The purpose of affective therapy is to reverse these stored negative messages and allow the defense system to relax. Inner child work is a form of affective therapy that works by examining present day emotional buttons that get pushed or unwanted behavioral reactions, tracing them back to their origins and healing the emotional pain. It is then that we can look at the situation more objectively and act out of the more rational adult. The rational, left brain is employed, but not until the right brain has accessed the origins of the problem and expressed the unresolved feelings.
Why do people seek therapy?
Some people are drawn to this type of deep healing work because they have an awareness inside that it is time to make some fundamental changes in their lives. Others are drawn to this work because they have run out of options to function effectively in their lives. Although the healing process continues throughout life, the course of affective healing work with a therapist has a beginning, a middle and an end. I work extensively with the Myers-Briggs Type-Indicator (MBTI) and Enneagram personality typing systems to identify both a client's core self (MBTI) and their defensive structure (Enneagram). As a therapist, I feel that when I know a client's MBTI type, Enneagram type and life history, I know about 95% of who my client is. Working with these three keys is not only more effective than conventional talk therapy, but expedites the progress making it far more efficient and cost effective.
Groups Currently Recruiting for:
Therapeutic Support Group for Women In Heterosexual Relationships Who Are Coming Out as Lesbian or Questioning Their Sexual Orientation
This is a therapeutic support group for married women or women who have been recently married to a man in a heterosexual relationship and are now coming out as lesbians or questioning their sexual orientation. We are currently recruiting for the next group. If interested, please click link below or contact us at: email@example.com
Past Workshops & Classes:
Visual Journaling: Using Images to Go Deeper than Words (January 9 - February 13, 2014)
This 6 week course is designed to help you learn how to move beyond thought and words into feelings and intuitive knowledge...even if you can't draw! Emotions repressed from our past remain stored away in our bodies and can cause physical symptoms of varying severity, including depression, panic or fear, even intense reactions towards our children, partners or loved ones. Often, just the act of getting in touch with how something really feels inside your body -- rather than how you think it feels -- is enough to offer a sense of relief and bring about great changes in our lives and relationships.
Introduction to Visual Journaling: Using Images to Go Deeper Than Words with Clients (March 6, 2014)
W0rds interpret our feelings, images reveal them. Imagery is our body-mind-spirit connection's primary means of communication. And feelings always communicate information if we are willing to listen. Emotions repressed from the past remain stored away in our bodies, and can cause physical symptoms of varying severity, including physical pain, illness, weight concerns, depression, anxiety, panic or intense reactions towards our loved ones. Come and learn the theory and practice behind the importance of moving beyond thoughts and words into feelings and intuitive knowledge in your work with clients. No artistic ability required!
3 Keys to Self-Understanding: An Innovative Combination of the MBTI, Enneagram and Affective Inner Child Healing Processes (March 7-8, 2014)
Come and join us in a journey of self-discovery as we explore how our life experiences have shaped us into the people that we are today. Workshop participants will receive an overview of the 3Keys Model for deep emotional affective healing, and a working understanding of the MBTI and Enneagram personality systems, including the roles of these two typing systems in the development of both the core self and defense systems. The retreat will include experiential exercises, group process and discussion to move participants through their own process of self-discovery and explore how this wisdom can heal emotional and spiritual wounding, and how you can use this wisdom to guide you back to your soul self.
Upcoming Workshops, Classes & Current Events
Three Keys to Self-Understanding: Inner Work Experiential Workshop for Deep Change (May 3-4, 2014)
Have you ever wondered...is it possible for me to truly handle unresolved issues? How come traditional therapy and coaching cannot seem to help me make the changes I want? There are things I know I want to change, but I cannot seem to! How will I ever truly become who I am meant to be? I learned about the influence of my past and being triggered or upset- but what can I DO about it? I think some things from your past simply cannot be resolved. Right? Wrong. In the first Three Keys workshop we learned WHAT the issues were -- now we are going to HANDLE them.
The workshop will be fully experiential (no lecture or theory)- come prepared for two days of very intensive, deep emotional work. The Three Keys approach directly tackles the underlying emotional and bodily roots of issues such as depression, addiction, lack of intimacy, and feelings of loneliness and inadequacy. It is best suited to people who have done some personal work already and are seeking a fundamental shift in their development. During the workshop, Kate will guide participants through a variety of experiential exercises using guided imagery, body work, artwork and music, designed to connect you with your core self, discover unresolved family issues, reconnect with your feelings, identify unmet needs and show you how to move forward. You will experience how very effective this work is in removing deeply-rooted barriers to a healthier, happier and more purposeful life. In other words: you know the one thing you always wanted to handle? The behavior you cannot seem to change, the relationship stuff you keep repeating, the work problem you keep encountering...? Bring it. Deal with it. Move on.
June 2014 Healing the Mind-Body-Spirit Divide: 3 Keys to Self-Understanding (June 25, 2014) This workshop presents a unique model for self-understanding incorporating the Enneagram and the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), along affective inner child work processes to facilitate deep emotional healing. The MBTI, profiles our core self, and is protected by the defense system of the Enneagram, which limits early emotional damage and provides coping skills. When living out of our defense system, we will always experience a disintegration of the body/mind/spirit. The workshop will demonstrate the value of using the MBTI and the Enneagram together to facilitate self-acceptance. Participants will be given a basic knowledge of a model for self-understanding, and will become familiar with the MBTI and what the MBTI profiles. They will be able to see how the Enneagram operates as a defense system for protecting the core self, and how these two systems operate and interact in an individual. They will be able to understand how unexplained shifts in behaviors under certain conditions, as well as body/mind/spirit disintegration. Participants will be given insights into their own behaviors and how to acquire conscious control of those behaviors restoring a sense of personal power. (Presentation for the 39th Annual National Wellness Conference, through the National Wellness Institute.)
Visual Journaling: Using Images to Go Deeper than Words (September 11, 2014- October 16, 2014)
This is a second offering of the 6 week course is designed to help you learn how to move beyond thought and words into feelings and intuitive knowledge...even if you can't draw! Emotions repressed from our past remain stored away in our bodies and can cause physical symptoms of varying severity, including depression, panic or fear, even intense reactions towards our children, partners or loved ones. Often, just the act of getting in touch with how something really feels inside your body -- rather than how you think it feels -- is enough to offer a sense of relief and bring about great changes in our lives and relationships. Visual journaling is a wonderful way to access emotions and feelings that words cannot express and release those feelings so that your body no longer has to carry them around. No previous therapy experience, mental health training or artistic ability required! This class is designed specifically for anyone interested in getting in touch with their inner wisdom and guidance and learning how to stay connected to this source of inner knowledge through the use of visual journaling.
November 2014 Sexual Orientation and Our Soul Spirit: Recovering Our Soul Self (November 8, 2014)
This is a 3Keys to Self-Understanding experiential retreat opportunity to explore personal and spiritual soul wounding as a result of identifying as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or questioning or living in an "alternative" lifestyle or relationship. Living a non-traditional lifestyle in a culture that is strongly heterosexual and condemns a person's identity is difficult at best. When family or community disapproval and alienation are added to that, it can be devastating. Relationships suffer, energy reserved for pursuing life, being creative, thriving in careers and having families of one's own is affected, often stymied. Coping behaviors to keep this "secret" can become paramount, resulting in many feeling as if they are living with a "black hole" inside or that something is missing, into which all kinds of things are thrown in an effort to fill the hole. Even though many have come to terms of a cognitive level with their "non-traditional" orientation in the world, subconsciously there are still hidden beliefs and "programs" that tell us what is acceptable in this world. Join us in a day of self-discovery as we explore how these experiences have impacted our lives, causing us to live out of a false sense of self, and what we need to do to recover our "soul" self and move forward with purpose.
Peace...it does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work; rather, it means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart. (Unknown)